Ara: I'm Afraid To Live With A Man Again

Nigeria's female talking drummer, Ara and her ex-hubby went their separate ways 3 years after getting married- their marriage didn't work out.

Her then husband maltreated her, and she later discovered he had another marriage aside theirs. She is therefore afraid to re-marry. Here's what she said:

"I have someone I have a strong feeling for but I guess my fear of commitment has kept me from going further. I am going through counseling now, but I am afraid to live with a man again. I want to love again, I want to have more children but my fear is still there."

"My marriage didn't pack up because of another woman. No, it is much deeper than that for me. I believe a man is capable of sharing his affection. After all, most of us come from a polygamous setting. Having more than one wife does not stop you from being happy; the tendency of being violent will not even be there."

"It has not been easy. But I don't want to make another mistake then people will say 'she's the one that has the problem'. I want to get married but I am being careful. I want to love again, share and care but I have to be careful."

"There's no age you cannot find love. For now, I am in a relationship."